Where in life do I give up responsibility?

Blaming is a no-no.

               Sure, everybody – whether young or an adult, is responsible for their own little things in life. But do they know what responsibility means? For me, responsibility, otherwise known as “accountability”, is being liable for a duty a person was assigned. I, like everyone else, is expected to be held responsible for what I am taking control of. But this “responsibility” has its limits. I think that this “limit” is when I start to be responsible for another’s life or problems, which is something I cannot control. I believe that one person is not accountable to another’s life or problems because they were the ones given the responsibility for that and they shouldn’t blame anybody.

                Let me give you an overview of my responsibilities. Well, first, I am responsible for this life I have been given. I don’t like blaming my parents if something unexpected popped out of my life. It’s saddening to blame someone for which they have no sway of. My parents gave me what I need, and I in turn, have to make use of these needs. My parents have given me advice, have protected me since birth, and now that I’m close to adulthood, they slowly started to give me more freedom. For example, there was this time when I got an injury during an activity in school because I didn’t have enough sleep, and I complained to my parents.  Later on, I realized that my parents always told me to take care of myself because I’m responsible for whatever I’m doing. Second, I’m in charge  of my studies. Responsibility in school is much like disciplining myself. Whatever I’ve been tasked to do, I should do. I can’t assign a friend or two to do my homework – then blame them if the answer is wrong. After all, it was my homework, not theirs. Thirdly, I’m responsible for whatever I have to do at home, like chores. I have been given this home to live in, and I’m then tasked to take care of it. So where does this responsibility ends?

Advising somebody.

 I do my best to give a great advice based on my experience whenever my friends or just random people ask for one. But in my opinion, it’s impertinent to blame someone if this advice fails them, and when things don’t go the way they wa
nted to. They asked for my advice. But I’m not responsible for what they have done. It’s their life, and it’s their problem. Why would I be held accountable for it?  If my advice led to another path, then they should have had their other options. It was just an advice after all. I didn’t tell them to necessarily follow what I said. After all, we are all responsible with our own life and problems. We don’t have the right to blame anybody with it.

`               As what John C. Maxwell said, “The greatest day in our life and mine is when we take total responsibility for our attitudes.”

We are responsible for our own attitude, actions and problems. Likewise, blaming is a no-no.